It’s just they sometimes lack communication or just have no respect and know that what they’re doing is wrong just don’t care or become an absolute asshole about it when a woman says no. It really hurts mentally to me Bc I deal with that none stop on a daily basis…especially from my ex and a red neck honestly, it’s not attractive and repeating myself like a broken record doesn’t help when they keep doing it…I give up on dating Bc of this

Unfortunately especially when they know it’s not wanted and will be recieved with an intense negative reaction, it is probably quite thrilling to them. It may seem counterintuitive and I doubt they even realize quite fully themselves why they do it but here’s why: EMOTIONAL NEEDS. We each seek to fulfill our needs, unfortunately they can be fulfilled in a negative unsustainable manner. For instance the person sending it has a high degree of CERTAINTY that the reaction they will get will be intense and we all need certainty and some degree of control over our environment and interactions. Also there is inherent VARIETY because they don’t quite know how you will react. The next part is why they keep doing it despite your clearly stated wishes for them to stop. It’s most likely about SIGNIFICANCE more than what most people would assume it is such as power. Think of it this way if they lack the love and support in their life to have meaningful respectful relationships it’s better to settle for connection and interaction than to be ignored. So even if they are being yelled at or criticized, to their brain it says at least they are significant enough to be recognized and scolded. . When you look at all the factors it actually paints quite a sad and depressing picture. While I don’t support what they’re doing or their choices it’s important to still try to seek understanding and empathy as empathy is simply understanding someone else’s position, but not sympathy which would say it’s ok for them to act like that which it’s not. They need to take responsibility for their circumstances even if they weren’t responsible for creating them. . Now that we’ve discussed them I think it’s important to look at how you feel about dating relationships etc., can you send another tell about why you’ve given up on dating and I can answer it and address it in that one

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