How come some people who say they’re depressed and suicidal want to date someone just to use them for their own benefit?

If someone says they feels depressed or suicidal it should be taken seriously. If they actually feel that way or not actually isnt important . Here’s why: In either case, regardless of if they are or aren’t getting these things, they clearly are struggling with many difficult feelings and experiences that are overwhelming to them. Either way they lack the support they needed and want. (Again I would need to talk with the individual) but I believe there are a few reasons they may want to find a relationship. First the most foundational, just because they are struggling doesn’t mean they stop finding people attractive. If they are also lacking a properly attuned support system in their environment then they may be even more likely to try and fill both needs at the same time. Both a support system and human connection. While they do both contribute to some of the benefits of a relationship, what this theoretical person may not realize are the huge expectations and just how much pressure and they are putting on the relationship. This is not a great thing to do as relationships are challenging even without adding on the burden of personal struggles. However it’s understandable given that part of the reason they turn towards a relationship is because they don’t have anyone to turn to right now hence the current situation. . I’m not supporting taking your personal challenges and dragging them into a relationship and expecting the other person to help you solve it but I do think we can still be empathetic towards their situation. Maybe then we can help those close to us in our own lives. . As difficult as it can be to accept the vast majority of the time it’s nothing personal. Especially when we can see the person is struggling and in a challenging place. The problems issues etc. that seem to be directed outwards towards others are really just manifestations of what they’re struggling with inside.

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